Life is difficult. No one denies this. There are moments of joy and success, but there are also moments of sadness and failure. How do we find the areas for growth in these moments of failure? How do we find peace when it seems like there is no hope in sight?
I honestly can’t say how. Everyone finds a different way of coping with these moments. They seem to leap on you from every angle. Sometimes it feels like there is no escape from these, they leach onto your mind sowing doubt. It’s okay to have doubts and fears, just don’t let them take control of you and stop you from growing. Perhaps the best way to cope with these moments is to take the failure and build from it. Instead of waiting for the moment to shape you, shape the moment and seek the growth in the situation.
This is easier said than done, but once it can be done then you don’t have to let everything that you fear take full control and cripple you. Break free of the things you have doubts about. To truly grow you have to be willing to admit that you have problems that you’re dealing with, but also that you don’t have to let them define who you are. To be truly free you sometimes have to realise just how trapped you were, and recognise that it doesn’t have to stay that way.
One thing I would stress here is that you don’t have to deal with this on your own. Find someone you trust who you can talk to. Often just having someone there to support you can help you immeasurably. Don’t let them take on your problems fully, but do allow them to help you out. Henry Ford said:
“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.”
When we work together we participate in something bigger than ourselves and our problems don’t seem as large. This is the true nature of community. Community literally means “with unity”, growing together. Sometimes to grow as an individual, we need to grow with others. If we are constantly at each other’s throats then there is no progress. Change can’t happen unless people begin to work together.
It’s great to experience personal development, in fact, it’s needed. Let’s not let personal development become the sole goal, but rather a stepping stone towards a much greater change.